Anger can sometimes be portrayed as bad, violent, dangerous and associated with the masculine However if it is used in the right way it can be a really useful energy to help us get into our power.
Despite sometimes being an uncomfortable feeling I have learned to love, embrace and use it to fuel my passion. Being of British/Australian descent I sometimes fantasise what it would be like to be Spanish where it is more socially acceptable to express anger as a women as well as reveal your passion to the world.
If we can accept, own and feel anger when it arises it can be a powerful force. However if suppressed and buried deep in our unconscious it can become toxic and stand in the way of a healthy and fulfilling life and relationships. One little trigger may send you over the edge into a giant volcanic mess!
When anger arises I try and move it through my body weather that be dancing, punching, screaming into ocean waves or making space with a therapist to express it in a supportive context.
It may sound crazy but holding onto it is even crazier!!!
It feels powerful, real and reminds me I am human.
Anger or Frustration can propel us into change. It can help us discern what we do and don't want in life and enable us to have clearer boundaries and be assertive in the world.
I remember moving to a regional area and not finding a preschool which suited our family, I was really pissed off and angry that what I desired for our family hadn't presented it's self. That night I moved some energy and wished the right preschool would present its self. The next day I was compelled to drive out to a small country town to explore the area. I felt a huge energy surge move though me and then out popped this gorgeous little community preschool in a 100 year old building nestled amidst majestic bushland. My prayer had been answered! In this situation the anger had helped me get clear on what I want and move towards it.
Rather then fear anger can it be our friend? A motivator and instigator for change and a better life?
Would love to hear your journey with anger?